I never questioned my sexuality growing up. I didn’t struggle to figure myself out. I was gay until I wasn’t. My late 20s had a different idea. A confusing idea. An idea that left me feeling lost and alone. Uncertainty followed by the realisation that my queerness evolved to include men.
This revelation didn’t come without a price and that price was me having said and done some things that were incredibly biphobic. I may not have realised it, but that doesn’t excuse my actions or the now deleted words I wrote about how I thought it was possible for a lesbian to sleep with men and still consider herself a lesbian. This mess of words made sense to me, in a trying to figure out my sexuality way, but they were hurtful and disrespectful to both bisexual and gay women because their sexualities are not the same.